In a world where everyman for himself and God for us all, it seems that we are not in a compromising era. The phrase forgive and forget does not appear in the dot.com relationship. You mess it and just like that, your relationship is gone. You get forgiven and it will appear in any argument after that!
How many people do you know that sticks in abusive relationship, showing smiley faces to the world yet they live in misery and takes so much rubbish in their life? Have you been cheated on? have you been washed clean of your finances? have you been raped? have you been beaten? have you been given cold war? Where do you strike a balance of I have had enough? Or when do you say: this is nothing, I can take it!
I am not only talking about romantic relationship, it could be employer /employee, business, friendships or any collaboration that involve working together to a common goal. Yes, I know employees who leave a job because of a simple arguments that could have been settled with “I am sorry” or divorced couple that cannot even remember the hype about their divorce because the rushed into it. Others were bearing it all until they become fully dysfunctional, they stayed in too much.
Do not throw the towel too early in anything you engage in. Also deal with things when they happen. Bottling issues only allows for bigger explosions. Today I am dealing with such an emotion, where I have to make a decision on how to deal with an issue in a balanced and effective way and it’s difficult. When the emotions are raw, when the hurt is fresh, then it’s hard to see past it. In all this, I know the outcome I want, in this collaborative relationship, hence I need to find solutions to a problem that will allow a continuity of a working
All that glitters is not gold. Copper can be coated in Gold. Polished image is what many successful relationships present to the world. Never presenting their problems, because it’s not a problem if you are dealing with it, it’s a challenge. As I deal with mine today, I hope you my readers will feel obliged to go and tackle those challenges facing your day to day relationships. Remember there is nothing like Perfect relationship as there are no two individuals who can agree on everything 100% all the time. Its Compromise, Respect and Love that keeps many able to function with a glittery coat of gold.