raging hormonal change will be in active motion at the age of 13/14 and definitely by 15, they would have been fully exposed to the subject through many available mediums and if they are not fully aware of the repercussions and safety, they will find themselves trapped by a pregnancy, with the very difficult choice of becoming a young mum or dad, or even abortion!
There is no need of pretending that teenage pregnancy is new, even the time of our grandmothers, teenagers engaged in sex and even when you were growing up, you know one or two that dropped out of school. You do not want it to be yours; hence the need for an informed choices, before it’s too late to do anything.
There are blames directed to the government, Schools, Peer pressure, Parents, Sex education, Media and the society at large. It does not matter who is to blame, if a teenager has already engaged in sex, chances are they did not think about it as a matter of choice, they take it just like another video game, something to bring pleasure! In my experience, a teenager will not feel free to confide in a parent about sexual advances or encounters.
Under 16s are legally allowed to seek or undergo abortion without the parental consent. Abortion is associated to so many emotional baggages that the young people are not mature to deal with. Issues like `Its murder, failed
relationship, secrecy’ are all so deep for a child as young as 15 to deal with, hence making the problem very complex.
In UK, teenage pregnancy among the black community is over represented. Many associate it to economic deprivation, lack of accessible sex education and contraceptives.There is a mention of lack of support from families, the peer pressure for this group is very strong and the media sexualize black youth through music and advertising strategies that glorify sexuality and immorality.
Perception of different individuals, institutions and religions plays a big role in influencing the choices our children make. Prevention is better than cure, so my advice start parental lessons early, watch out for signs and if it has happened,support the child. Some of the great parents were teenage mothers themselves. Remember, a baby is for life, so unless you are ready to change your life, avoid committing to a sexual relationship. Good luck to all of us worried parents out there.