This is probably a child with Special Needs; those diagnosed with varied difficulties, including mild or profound learning disabilities, food allergies or terminal illness; developmental delays; occasional panic attacks or serious psychiatric problems. The diagnosis is useful for getting needed services, setting appropriate goals, and gaining understanding for a child. Sometimes though, families with special needs children undergo problems that can change their whole life.
There are challenges faced by the child and their families;
Skills: It’s important for the special needs children to develop Life skills. It may seem easier to just do everything for your child than to put up with error-filled attempts. But ultimately, both you and your child will benefit from efforts to teach basic living skills. This is part of planning for the future; ask yourself, what will happen to the child if you are gone?
The community may not seem welcoming but introducing the child to real life is important to give them a balance and understanding of the difficulties of life. Some people are real horrid, uncaring and hateful; hence some parents
might keep their challenged children indoors. This is not the solution, and it does more damage to the child to be kept out of the normal life.
Challenges to siblings: Even the most loving brother or sister will have a day of contempt and loathe of the attention the special need child is getting or the constant need of their support. Remember to spread your time too
to children without disability. Couples have divorced due to strains caused caring for a special need child. Many stops working, so the financial strains occur.
You are not the first one to be there, others have been there, done that, and survived. Its empowering thing for parents of children with special need to know that there is support out there in the community. In Britain, there is a good coordinated support system for such cases. One parent interviewed by African acts said” the best thing I have done for my child is to come to the UK. The medical care, the education and the family support is good, it could be better but I am not complaining, compared to how it was like in Kenya”
What have you done as a friend?
Do you support or run way, say you are occupied when such parents need support?
Have you moved your children away from a special need child?
Personally, In my teaching career, I have taught so many special needs children, and they are a joy, just like any other children and more so when they succeed in a task. I also happen to have friends with special need children and I encourage all of them to bring their children out, to share good times with other children.
There are so many cases of special needs children in UK born of Kenyan parent. There is a lack of Kenyan support group for such families but good things start somewhere. Lets share our experience and our compassion to help Children of special needs. What is your Experience regarding special needs children?