Life is at its best in a loving and long term relationship, as this is where commitment and emotional satisfaction dwell. A state of total surrender of each other’s body and enjoyment of the most fulfilling sexual sensations is how most marriages start. With the highest level of intimacy, but somewhere down the line, one partner or both
may feel less intimate. That does not mean they have fallen out of Love!
Being in Love is the pitch of any relationship but a lasting relationship need deeper, solid and overbearing type of love. Even in the best of marriages, there are sexual peaks and lows, the peaks coincide with increased intimacy e.g. after a great day in each others company. A good way of improving sex in marriage is deepening intimacy. Truly great sex happens within a committed emotional relationship than a temporarily secret one. If partner is cheating, they probably feel very bad after that because the encounter will not be fulfilling.. Love can be translated as passion, affection, romantic feelings, friendship, fondness, infatuation, or a combinations of these qualities but usually Love is expected to yield sex in return. You have all heard “ love without sex is like tea without sugar”
I am a Christian. We believe in agape love and we vow to this Love. When sex is gone, Love is still there. When the couple quarrels, it will not mean the love is lost or sex will not take place. It just means we disagreed which is a very healthy part of a relationship. It means both partners are sharing decision making. This love demands forgiveness, commitment, understanding and no grudges. This is the Love all couples should aim to live on.
The moment we say “I do” We always mean forever but when challenges come, some give up. Marriage storms are inevitable; it is how the couple deals with them that matters. Some divorce before trying to make up or look at solution, they dwell on the problem.
Marriage does not necessarily make people happy, but people can make their marriage a happy one by giving to one another, working together and growing together. An honest desire for the happiness of your partner will bring a surprising degree of happiness into your life. Love in essence, is the deliberate act of giving one’s self to another so that the other person. If a husband and wife freely give to each other, each will have a sense of completeness and contentment. Be your partner’s keeper, not what you can get but what you can give!
If you feel love is waning in your relationship, the wise thing to do is not to abandon sex but to set your mind to
renew the relationship. Think of good things, good times and exercises the choice. If your partner shares the commitment, the need to love will be greater than anger, guilt, hurt, resentment or bitterness. Keep communicating, talk, and write notes, emails, texts…keeps it going until you renew the love. Do not demand response, keep giving! Its infectious giving to a partner and eventually, they will reciprocate.
Be creative in your giving. Live out of the box and give in a way your partner did not expect. Even after a crazy work schedule, give a hug first before downloading the problems. You will both respond much more readily to sexual advances when motivated by respect and consideration.Women are naturally verbal and men are action
related, a hug, a kiss and a touch will go a long way. Sexual desire comes so easily to couples who constantly touch .Building an atmosphere of caring and romance is a sign of true love.
Marriage sex is not as seen on TV. Remove performance goal or unrelated expectations but make it special, try new things within your respectable margins, Surprise each other in nonsexual ways. Meet her for dinner, dress up, put cologne, Send flowers and a love note. Send a card. Do something unexpected, even out of character, and see how your partner reacts. I love you Balloons at work, Join games with each other and kids, but more importantly, cuddle, hug, kiss and talk!
I say marriage and sex is like football. We all chose a team to support, we commit to them and enjoy their game. When they are winning, the feeling is awesome, but they do not win all the time. We do not take away our support when they are losing, we push on, give excuses, try to understand their failures and work hard, convince others that your team is not rubbish until that time again when they start winning! Let our marriages and partnership win! Work on it people! your kids deserve a family that stays together.